Combating physical disciplines against children refugee in Nyarugusu Refugee camp
Un proyecto de construcción de paz de LUC L.
¿Cuál es la injusticia que estamos intentando resolver?
The injustice is violence of parents against children. In fact, parents are using too much physical force than necessary to discipline kids at their homes. It has become normal here for parents to hit, slap or even persecute children by cutting them with sharp objects , making them kneel down for extremely long period, having children standing long time under the sun or rain as a way to discipline children who misbehave. It is common in Nyarugusu Refugee to see parents beating children refugees with stick or can, calling them bad names or even chasing them from the family to make them learn how to behave. Depending on the age of kids, these violence vary from parent to parent ;as such, a number of parents have dropped their kids from school to engage them in difficult works like fetching fire woods or digging latrines as punishments to their unacceptable behavior. Some even go further at preventing children from eating the hole day in case of severe misbehavior. These a re just some kinds of physical disciplines a and/or punishments we observe every day in our community that are being used by by parents as a response to children misbehavior. Humiliation has been the powerful tool used by parents to treat children who lack discipline.
Nuestra Idea Compasiva
Para resolver la injusticia de Physical punishments (physical violence: beating, slapping, canning, kneel down, hitting with stick,...) against children
Abordaremos Parents' lack of knowledge of the positive redirection techniques to deal with young people's small, medium and severe misbehavior; and parents' ignorance of the kids’ rights and its importance to the children well-being.
A través de Having youth-led training on children rights and positive discipline; and inclusive focus group discussion with parents, caregivers and young people on the importance of the respect and protection of kids rights and the positive redirection techniques to respond to young people’s misbehavior; Having brainstorming sessions with parents/caregivers and young people on the commonly identified behavioral problems among young people and the best possible positive ways to respond to young people’s misconducts and the best possible acceptable ways young people should behave.
- Our overall objective is to combat corporal violent punishments/violence against children;
- Reduce the parents/care givers' use of physical punishments to discipline misbehaving kids by 30% by teaching them the positive redirection techniques to deal with small, medium and severe misbehavior
- Raise awareness of kids rights among parents and parental obligations, so that the children rights are understood, respected and protected by parents/caregivers through training on children rights and positive disciplines , and focus group discussion
- Raise the awareness of the kid’s obligations/responsibilities towards parents and the best acceptable behavioral practices kids need to have.
- Contribute in the healthy mind development of kids and improve their social, physical and psychological well being.
- Identify hidden cases of severe physical violence among kids and refer them to the existing child protection referral systems if necessary.
Aumentaremos mi / nuestra compasión por medio de...
We will increase our compassion by sharing with, and actively involving the vulnerable of this injustice and those who are creating and/or perpetuating it in this project. We will involve all the persons affected by this injustice. In particular, we will involve children aging from 11-17 years (males and females), parents/caregivers' representatives, kids rights activists, and school leaders in this project to have a clear view of where the problem stands and discuss the possible solutions.
¿Cómo mostrarás coraje (valentía)?
We will engage in vibrant youth-led discussions on positive disciplines and children rights with young people, parents and children's rights activists focusing on the importance of the respect and protection of children rights and positive disciplines to the young people's well being. We will mobilize in schools, churches, youth centers and do the house by house mobilizations to have active participation of young people and parents in our project. During the discussions the most common young people's behavioral problems will be discussed and the best possible solutions will be commonly developed by both parents and young people including the best possible acceptable ways young people need to behave and the positive redirection techniques to use in case of young people's misconducts.
¿Cómo colaborarán con otros/as?
We will invite 2 kid rights and child protection activists to join our action. We will send them invitations on e-mails and ask them to take part in our project. We will collaborate with others through information and responsibilities sharing. Also, we will use social media (Facebook) to ask different people to compassion with us in this project. Further, We will share our activities including but not limited to the report with parents' representatives, church leaders, school leaders, Peace first team, children rights activists and humanitarian NGOs dealing with child protection matters in Nyarugusu camp.
¿Cómo sabrás que te estás moviendo en la dirección correcta? (¿Cuáles son las formas específicas en que puedes medir tu impacto?)
We have set key achievement indicators to direct our project. We have specific indicators for our objectives to assess the effectiveness and the success of the activities planned in this project. These are: 1. Training on Positive redirection techniques is conducted and positive redirection techniques are taught to parents and they apply them to discipline misbehaving kids in their homes so the use of physical discipline is reduced by 30% at least; 2. Training and focus discussions on children rights and parental obligations is conducted so the parents understand what is meant by "child" and "children rights and clearly understand their parental obligations and commit to obey them; children rights are well understood, respected and protected by parents; 3. Focus group discussion on kids obligations towards parents is conducted, the kids understand their obligations/responsibilities towards parents and engage to obey them. The young people's acceptable behaviors are discussed and the possible solutions to young people's misconducts are commonly developed by parents and kids. 4. Hidden cases of severe physical and emotional violence are identified, and unattended survivors with severe cases are referred to the existing child protection units for psycho social supports thus contributing in the healthy mind development of the vulnerable.
- Contact the young people victims of physical and emotional violence
- Mobilization sessions on kids rights and positive disciplines in schools, youth centers, churches and homes
- Training on children rights and positive disciplines
- Focus group discussion sessions on - kids rights and positive discipline techniques - Parents and young people's obligations towards each other; - the most common behavioral problems among children and the best positive ways to redirect young people's misconducts . - The best acceptable ways young people need to be have
- Making Referrals for unsupported severe cases of physical and emotional violence, if any
- Home visits(Monitoring)
- Project evaluation and report writing
¿Cómo profundizó el proyecto la comprensión de la injusticia en tu equipo?
We have identified more causes and consequences of the injustice during the focus discussion groups. Parents and young people were not shy to speak out loud the causes of misconducts and the consequences of the physical punishments. The participants were open enough to point out what makes them react in one way or another
¿Cómo cambió tu comunidad como resultado de tu proyecto?
The community have got the knowledge they lacked for long time. Parents and caregivers have been taught on how they can manage stress to avoid the hazard of imposing physical harmful disciplines to young people including the relaxation techniques to calm down their stress. Also, the parents/caregivers got the knowledge of the best positive redirection techniques they can use to respond to the young people's misbehavior that help young people learn from their mistakes. The most common behavioral problems among young people have been discussed in details, solutions have been developed by both the creator and the victim of the injustice. The participants have engaged to put the knowledge acquired in the training and focus group discussions into action and currently this injustice has reduced importantly. Out of 10 houses visited by our team after this project, none of them was using physical discipline to discipline misbehaving kids. The community has changed from being "reactive" to being "proactive".
¿Cuántas personas fueron impactadas por tu proyecto?
In addition to those directly impacted, are there additional people you feel were indirectly indirectly impacted or reached? If so, how many? (This might include people who read about your project, families of people that attended your workshops or received services, etc.)
We summed up the number of participants who signed the attendance sheets during the training and the focus group discussions. we had 60 participants in the training and 40 participants in the Youth-led focus group discussions. The participants were signing the attendance sheets at the end of the session.
¿De qué manera aprendió más tu equipo sobre las personas afectadas por la injusticia?
Apart from talking with the people affected by the injustice in the different sessions in this project, our team got the chance to visit some of the participants' homes and had some time to talk privately with the parents and kids to learn more about them and their families.
¿Qué aprendió tu equipo?
My team has learned that children are facing many other injustices at home places that do not need to be ignored like job imbalance between male and female children at home, forced school dropouts and more. The most affected group is the young girls at school age. Also, we have learned that some parents/ caregivers confuse "mistake" and "misbehavior". They ignore that people at young age sometimes do mistakes Not because they want them but in order to learn more about things they don't know well and consequently parents/caregivers treat this as lack of respect instead of part of the adolescent learning process. Families' Extreme poverty is not to let behind among the possible causes of the injustices observed at home places by our team whereby some young people are asked by parents to find money while studying.
¿Qué desafíos superó tu equipo?
Taking into account my team age average and the contents of this project, It was not easy to get parents/care givers involved in this project. We developed a more respectful and inclusive strategy to get parents involved in our projects whereby parents/caregivers were mobilized at different locations at churches, homes, schools and told that we are not teaching them something new but we only need them to share their experience with us so that we learn more from them and grow up mentally. Another challenge we overcome was to get the consent of young people with severe cases of physical and emotional violence in order to refer them to the established child protection and voluntary counseling units for psycho social supports. Some young people were reluctant to be attended psychologists/counselor by fear of parents But we mobilized by telling them that the counseling was to help them overcome the challenges they go through and that everything discussed by the counseling will be kept confidential that the parents will not know what they discussed by the counselor.
¿Cómo involucraste a otros en el diseño, la realización o la expansión de este proyecto?
We invited others through e-mails and face to face conversations. We invited people around us that we found helpful to the fulfillment of this project.
¿Qué consejo le darías a alguien que inicia un proyecto de paz?
My advice is: Being a peace maker is challenging BUT don't be afraid and NEVER give up. We normally have the resources to bring solutions to problems in our community BUT we lack the skills to use them to achieve the right solution. Since, the community problem is never an issue affecting a single person , please NEVER do it alone, invite people around you, talk with them about what you think is the problem discuss the causes together and propose the solutions together. NEVER underestimate someone's ideas , all the ideas coming from the people you invited to tackle the issue are helpful and need to be taken with care and respect even if you might not take them all.
Combating physical disciplines against children refugee in Nyarugusu Refugee campwe have conducted the training on children rights and positive disciplines with parents and children in Nyarugusu refugee camp on 3rd August 2019.
Parents/care givers and young people shared experiences on kids' rights and positive disciplines. Parental and children responsibilities towards each other were vibrantly discussed. children rights and positive disciplines were respectively made aware to parents and young people. Commitments were taken by parents to observe children rights at home places and children engaged to behave as part of fulfilling their responsibilities towards parents.