NURTURING BOYS TO RESPONSIBLE MEN AND CITIZENS
A Peacemaking Project by Steve Fidel M.
What is the injustice we are solving?
While we complain about gender based violence/harassment, the statistics shows men/boys are mostly the genesis of this to women. Therefore, the injustice am going to address is gender based violence and sexual harassment that happens to women and girls by civilizing/nurturing boys so that they grow to be responsible men of the society who will value, cherish, respect and observe the human dignity of girls and women. This will be done by mentoring these boys and creating them environment where they will grow to appreciate females.
Our Compassionate Solution:
To solve this injustice of Gender based violence and sexual harassment
we will address Boys are not mentored and nurtured to grow as a responsible men and citizens
by Mentoring and nurturing boys into responsible men and citizens who will grow to appreciate and respect ladies and observe their human rights. This will be done by holding talks on human rights and how to observe them and organize the one to one talk with boys as to how they can grow to be desired men of morals. We will also be on air talking about violence against women and we will run it on social media too so that we reach to many youths.
Our Project Plan:
- To end gender based violence and sexual harassment
- To nurture a generation of responsible men and good citizens
- To grow a generation that appreciates the value and dignity in females
We will increase my / our compassion by...
I will increase my compassion by using case studies of a man who has been respecting and cherishing his wife and a woman who has been experiencing love and respect from the husband that can attest to its goodness of observing ones dignity
How will you show courage?
I will show courage by engaging with men in a way that they should learn to appreciate women and also i will approach people with different professional achievement so that they stand as role models in the course of mentoring the boys.
How will you collaborate with others?
I will feature some men and women during radio and TV programs to inspire the young men and talk against gender based violence. I will work with my fellow boys and girls to reach to other boys. The empowered boys will also be part of the team involved in the dissemination of the information and growing fellow boys to desirable characters.
How will you know you are moving in the right direction? (What are specific ways you can measure your impact?)
When there will be reduced cases of gender based violence and sexual harassment, change in perception of boys towards girls, increased number of people having the interest in the project
- Meet men and women who would join us for radio and TV programs
- Conducting motivational talks to different groups of boys on the goodness of observing and respecting one another
- Arrange for the radio and TV programs
- Go to the stations for the talk shows
- Running a social media page to keep the conversation going
- Reporting to the peace first
How did the project deepen your team's understanding of the injustice?
The project gave us an opportunity to interact with young men at a personal level. We have learn that young men do injustices sometimes because they don't know that what they are doing is injustice to the other gender but also not knowing the implications of their actions. We have learn that most young men are doing injustices to their female counterparts than we estimated. The lack of mentorship and male model is making more young men not only to have someone to teach them good morals but also not having someone to share their worries with which in the end make them emotionally unstable and pose a danger to the community and themselves.
How did your community change as a result of your project?
Less young men are being found in the street doing nothing since we have encouraged most of them to go back to public School which is for free, this alone has made our streets safer and we have not registered any form of assault in the streets. Boys and girls are now teaming up to fight gender based violence this is a new thing in our society, and most girls are now more open to tell young men on how they can work together. Most of the people are now aware of the importance of nurturing young men to become a response citizen as an alternative and a sustainable way of ending gender based violence.
How many people were impacted by your project?
In addition to those directly impacted, are there additional people you feel were indirectly indirectly impacted or reached? If so, how many? (This might include people who read about your project, families of people that attended your workshops or received services, etc.)
We added the number of all the people who attended our secondary school outreach, university outreach and those who listened to us on the radio not forgetting those who were watching us on television. We counted only those who were contacting us and engaging with us on whatsapp after listened and watching us. We estimated 10 000 people through radio and television sessions. 5000 through the outreach other through our different social medias.
How did your team learn more about the people affected by the injustice?
We learnt about the affected people from different media and the survey we did before starting the project which showed that the victims of the injustices being addressed were young boys and girls of which we concentrate on reaching out in the areas and places where were were certain to find more numbers of this age group.
What did your team learn?
We learned that team work is essential when trying to solve a problem we were able to appreciate other people's talents that speed up the process. We learned to be focused and patient in executing our plan, most of the things seemed difficult at the start but it was through focus and patience that we made it. Through this project we have improved on how we communicate and relate to each other, more team members are able to speak out when they think something is not going on well and most members are able to call for help when the task is being to hard to be accomplished alone. Now than ever team members strongly believe that we can achieve more through our project and others are more confident that they can now do something about other things they think are not going well in our community.
What challenges did your team overcome?
We had a limited time to complete our project so we took advantage of gender based awareness campaign period through that we were able to be featured on more television and radio programs to talk on gender based violence and how we can bring a sustainable change by raising responsible men. We were running out of funds especially because transportation to some remote areas was expensive due to poor roads especially during in this rainy season. Some members were not participating in our activities we managed to motivate many but for those who we did not manage to encourage we ended up giving their tasks to other available team members.
How have you involved others in designing, carrying out, or expanding this project?
Responsibility was shared to team members in a way that our project was carried in three phases. The first phase was conducted by southern region of Malawi team, these people were responsible for writing their budget and program of events which later they implemented and reported to the whole team so did the northern and central region of Malawi teams. We involved secondary school teachers in organising events in secondary schools and actually to keep on reminding the students on gender based violence and how young men can take part.
What advice would you give to someone starting a peacemaking project?
Do not be afraid of doing something to change things that are not going well in your area, someone is waiting for someone like you to initiate the change and people will join you as you progress. The process of peacemaking project will change you to the better as you are changing your community.
Major activities from 2 October to 28 NovemberWe have managed to make to make known the of roles young male persons in ending gender based violence and the importance of nurturing young male persons towards ending the gender based injustices.
We have been on televisions and radios since 2 October to 28 November and we still have other televisions and radios calling us for interviews on the same subject. Below is the order of our appearance on televisions and radios
1. On 2 October we were on Malawi broadcasting corporation (MBC) TV. We were featured on Good morning Malawi program.
2. On 10 October we were featured on spotlight program on Malawi broadcasting corporation radio 2 ( Radio 2 FM)
3. On 20 October we were featured on Times television in the morning program
4.On 22 October we were on Zodiak TV on social hub program
5.On 25 October capital FM interview for the news which was air on 26 October 2pm.
6.On 30 October we were on capital FM featured on This is Africa (TIA) program
7. 19 November were on galaxy FM on morning Live program
8. 22 November we were featured on the news on same subject
9. 26 November we were on Timveni TV
10. 28 November we were on ufulu radio.
We have had four major conferences and youth meetings:
1. On 16 October evening, We had a confoncere at Malawi college of medicine (CoM). Topics discussed were: roles of young male persons in ending gender injustices, How to get more young men involved in ending gender related abuse and what are we doing in protecting girls and boys to gender related abuse.
2. On 23 October we hade a young meeting at Soche Hill secondary School. We talked to boys on the importance of having gender injustice free society and misconceptions on gender equality.
3. 30 October we had a meeting with students at Catholic university of Malawi. We had gander equality discussion and lecture on gender based abuse. Students studying social work, gender and those studying arts were major contributors to this meeting.
4. 2 November we had Nguludi secondary school outreach.
5. 27 November bwaila secondary school outreach.
OUR PROJECTS AGAINST GENDER BASED VIOLENCE IN THE NEWSBelow is the link to the article: